![Fresh Starts [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/09/savage-1.jpg)
I am newly divorced and have started a relationship with a man I’ve known and deeply cared about for decades. The sex is amazing—from start to finish, I feel better than I ever did even in the best moments with my ex. And in the most intense moments? He makes me see stars. He is […]
![Gay and Lonely [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/09/savage-348x180.jpg)
Gay and Lonely [Savage Love]
I am a gay man in my late 50s and have never been in a relationship. I am so lonely, and the painful emptiness I feel is becoming absolutely unbearable. In my early 20s, I hooked up off and on, but it never developed into anything. I have always told myself that’s okay; I’m not […]
![Shooting Stars [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/savage-348x180.jpg)
Shooting Stars [Savage Love]
I’m a cis woman in my mid-40s, and my significant other has a cuckolding fetish. My first response was “Oh, hell no!” But if I’m willing to have a threesome, how much further of a stretch is it, really? He does have some experience with this varsity-level kink, so he knows what to expect. I’ve […]
Quickies [Savage Love]
This woman has gone down on me (I’m a man) more than half a dozen times in the past three months. Each time seems to be better than the previous! She does not want reciprocation. She has also turned down all my offers for intercourse. As far as I know, she is heterosexual just like […]
Pickles & Surrogates [Savage Love]
I’m in a pickle. All I want is to experience touch, intimacy and sexual pleasure—but without freaking out. I grew up with a lot of negative messages from men because of developing early, as well as having some other physical/sexual trauma (no rape or abuse), but the combination has me seriously fucked-up. Whenever I get […]
Secret Perving [Savage Love]
I’ve been enjoying consensual nonmonogamy for the past two years, in part thanks to your column and podcast. I have a delightful young lover, and our connection has evolved into a kind of Master/slave relationship. I “allow” her to fuck other men and women, and she delights in asking my permission and recounting the details […]
![<i>Après</i> Pill, <i>Le Déluge</i> [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/dan-savage-348x180.jpg)
Après Pill, Le Déluge [Savage Love]
I’m a 27-year-old woman living on the East Coast. I’ve been sexually active and on birth control since I was 16—almost always on the pill. I recently switched to the NuvaRing, which I had a bad reaction to: I had no libido at all and extreme mood swings/bouts of depression I could not live with. […]
![Differences [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/savage-4-348x180.jpg)
Differences [Savage Love]
I’m gay and have been dating a guy for 10 months. He’s great overall, and I would say for the most part we both want it to work out. But I am having a problem with his friends and other lifestyle choices. All of his friends are straight, and almost all of them are women. […]
![Quickies [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/savage-3.jpg)
Quickies [Savage Love]
I’ve been faithfully reading your column in the Chicago Reader for years, and now I’m reaching out to you about my own problem. I’ve been dating this guy for almost a year. Everything is great, except one thing: He wants me to kick him in the nuts. It really bothers me, and I’m not sure […]
![Connections [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/savage-2-348x180.jpg)
Connections [Savage Love]
I’m a 20-year-old submissive woman. I’m currently in a confusing affair with a 50-year-old dominant married man. He lives in Europe and has two kids close to my age. We met online when I was 17 and starting to explore my BDSM desires—out of the reach of my overbearing, sex-shaming, disastrously religious parents—and we’ve been […]
![Lopsiders [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/savage-1.jpg)
Lopsiders [Savage Love]
Longtime Savage Love fanboy with a bit of a conundrum—and it’s your fault! I’m a bi man in my 30s. To use Charles M. Blow’s word, my bisexuality is “lopsided.” This means I fall in love with women exclusively, but I love to have sex with men occasionally. My current girlfriend not only approves, but […]
![It Got Better [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/savage-348x180.jpg)
It Got Better [Savage Love]
In a recent column, you said you never hear from married couples whose sex life got better and more frequent over the years. Well, now you have. My wife and I were married 24 years ago, and we are currently having more and better sex than we did in the first years of our marriage. […]
![Both & Baggage [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/savage-3.jpg)
Both & Baggage [Savage Love]
When I started dating my husband, he told me he had a low libido. I said I could deal with that. We waited several months before having sex, and then after we started, it was infrequent and impersonal. There was some slow improvement over the three years we dated. Then we got married, and suddenly, […]
![Blown Away [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/savage-2-348x180.jpg)
Blown Away [Savage Love]
I am a 24-year-old straight guy who recently broke up with my girlfriend of more than four years. One of the reasons we broke up was a general lack of sexual compatibility. She had a particular aversion to oral sex—both giving and receiving. I didn’t get a blowjob the whole time we were together. Which […]
![Retroactive Blessings [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/savage-1.jpg)
Retroactive Blessings [Savage Love]
Without snooping, I came across texts between my wife, “Mary,” and a guy, “Jeremy,” of a very sexual nature. While I would be okay if she were doing this and I knew about it, this has been going on since before we met. (We’ve been together 10 years.) She says she has never met him […]
![Shameful [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/savage.jpg)
Shameful [Savage Love]
I’ve been married to my husband for two years. Five months into our relationship (before we got married), he confessed he was an adult baby. I was so grossed out that I was literally ill. (Why would this great guy want to be like this?) I told him he would have to choose: diapers or […]
![What Works [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/savage-4.jpg)
What Works [Savage Love]
I am a 38-year-old gay man with a serious problem. My boyfriend of five years has developed a strange fascination. We’ve always watched porn together, but now he has been looking at straight porn and even lesbian porn (!!!) more and more often. More than once, he has expressed an interest in having a MMF […]
![Pissy [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/savage-3-348x180.jpg)
Pissy [Savage Love]
I like watersports, and I heard about a guy in a rural area who holds piss parties in his back yard. I found a mailing list for those interested in piss play, and it wasn’t long before he posted about one of these parties. People on the list talk a big game, but no one […]
![Denver’s Oriental Theater [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/savage-2.jpg)
Denver’s Oriental Theater [Savage Love]
Savage Love Live at Denver’s Oriental Theater last week was epic. I fielded sex questions in front of a sold-out crowd, singer/songwriter Rachel Lark performed amazing songs, comedian Elise Kerns absolutely killed it, and Tye—a token straight guy plucked at random from the audience—joined us onstage and gave some pretty great sex advice! We couldn’t […]
![Pedestrian AF [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/savage-1.jpg)
Pedestrian AF [Savage Love]
First, let me say that I think you give excellent advice, even if it is a bit pedestrian at times. I have a small problem: Last fall, my penis bent up and to the left at an almost 90-degree angle. I know from Google that this is not an unusual problem. And at 59, I […]
![Quickies [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/savage.jpg)
Quickies [Savage Love]
I wish I had a better question, but this is all I have: My friends and I were discussing the nuances of a straight orgy (a roughly equal number of male and female participants) versus a gangbang (one woman, many men), and we observed that there is no proper name for a one man, many […]
