![Lopsiders [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/savage-1.jpg)
Longtime Savage Love fanboy with a bit of a conundrum—and it’s your fault! I’m a bi man in my 30s. To use Charles M. Blow’s word, my bisexuality is “lopsided.” This means I fall in love with women exclusively, but I love to have sex with men occasionally. My current girlfriend not only approves, but […]
![It Got Better [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/07/savage-348x180.jpg)
It Got Better [Savage Love]
In a recent column, you said you never hear from married couples whose sex life got better and more frequent over the years. Well, now you have. My wife and I were married 24 years ago, and we are currently having more and better sex than we did in the first years of our marriage. […]
![Both & Baggage [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/savage-3.jpg)
Both & Baggage [Savage Love]
When I started dating my husband, he told me he had a low libido. I said I could deal with that. We waited several months before having sex, and then after we started, it was infrequent and impersonal. There was some slow improvement over the three years we dated. Then we got married, and suddenly, […]
![Blown Away [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/savage-2-348x180.jpg)
Blown Away [Savage Love]
I am a 24-year-old straight guy who recently broke up with my girlfriend of more than four years. One of the reasons we broke up was a general lack of sexual compatibility. She had a particular aversion to oral sex—both giving and receiving. I didn’t get a blowjob the whole time we were together. Which […]
![Retroactive Blessings [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/savage-1.jpg)
Retroactive Blessings [Savage Love]
Without snooping, I came across texts between my wife, “Mary,” and a guy, “Jeremy,” of a very sexual nature. While I would be okay if she were doing this and I knew about it, this has been going on since before we met. (We’ve been together 10 years.) She says she has never met him […]
![Shameful [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/savage.jpg)
Shameful [Savage Love]
I’ve been married to my husband for two years. Five months into our relationship (before we got married), he confessed he was an adult baby. I was so grossed out that I was literally ill. (Why would this great guy want to be like this?) I told him he would have to choose: diapers or […]
![What Works [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/savage-4.jpg)
What Works [Savage Love]
I am a 38-year-old gay man with a serious problem. My boyfriend of five years has developed a strange fascination. We’ve always watched porn together, but now he has been looking at straight porn and even lesbian porn (!!!) more and more often. More than once, he has expressed an interest in having a MMF […]
![Pissy [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/savage-3-348x180.jpg)
Pissy [Savage Love]
I like watersports, and I heard about a guy in a rural area who holds piss parties in his back yard. I found a mailing list for those interested in piss play, and it wasn’t long before he posted about one of these parties. People on the list talk a big game, but no one […]
![Denver’s Oriental Theater [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/savage-2.jpg)
Denver’s Oriental Theater [Savage Love]
Savage Love Live at Denver’s Oriental Theater last week was epic. I fielded sex questions in front of a sold-out crowd, singer/songwriter Rachel Lark performed amazing songs, comedian Elise Kerns absolutely killed it, and Tye—a token straight guy plucked at random from the audience—joined us onstage and gave some pretty great sex advice! We couldn’t […]
![Pedestrian AF [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/savage-1.jpg)
Pedestrian AF [Savage Love]
First, let me say that I think you give excellent advice, even if it is a bit pedestrian at times. I have a small problem: Last fall, my penis bent up and to the left at an almost 90-degree angle. I know from Google that this is not an unusual problem. And at 59, I […]
![Quickies [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/05/savage.jpg)
Quickies [Savage Love]
I wish I had a better question, but this is all I have: My friends and I were discussing the nuances of a straight orgy (a roughly equal number of male and female participants) versus a gangbang (one woman, many men), and we observed that there is no proper name for a one man, many […]
![Crushed [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/04/savage-2.jpg)
Crushed [Savage Love]
I’m a straight male in my 30s. I’ve been with my wife for 12 years. I have had several affairs. Not one-night-stand scenarios, but longer-term connections. I didn’t pursue any of these relationships. Instead, women who knew I was in an “exclusive” relationship have approached me. These have included what turned into a one-year affair […]
![Down There [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/04/savage-1-348x180.jpg)
Down There [Savage Love]
Background: I, a 21-year-old male, enjoy receptive fisting. I’ve also had constipation problems all my life. Question: I saw my doctor recently, and he tried to link my enjoyment of anal sex to my constipation. (Granted, I didn’t tell him EVERYTHING I do down there.) My understanding was that there was no causal relationship, assuming […]
![Call for Submissions [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/04/savage.jpg)
Call for Submissions [Savage Love]
I’m a 36-year-old straight woman. I was sexually and physically abused as a kid and raped in my early 20s. I have been seeing a great therapist for the past five years, and I am processing things and feeling better than I ever have. I was in a long-term relationship that ended about two years […]
Questions From the Royal Oak [Savage Love]
I visited Royal Oak, Michigan, for Savage Love Live at the Royal Oak Music Theatre. I didn’t get to all of the questions submitted by the large and tipsy crowd—a crowd that skipped the Stormy Daniels interview on 60 Minutes to spend the evening with me (so honored, you guys!)—so I’m going to race through […]
![Cock Locked [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/03/dan-savage-1-348x180.jpg)
Cock Locked [Savage Love]
I’m in a D/s relationship. I’m not submissive around the clock, but my partner owns my cock. We’ve purchased several male-chastity devices, but I can pretty easily get my cock out of them. My partner did some investigating and learned that the only effective devices work with a Prince Albert piercing—a ring through the head […]
![Ace & the Hole [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/03/savage-1.jpg)
Ace & the Hole [Savage Love]
I’m a 26-year-old cis queer woman. My best friend has identified publicly as asexual for the past two years. She constantly talks about how since she doesn’t “need” sex, this means she is asexual. She does have sex, however, and she enjoys it, which I know isn’t disqualifying. But she also actively seeks out sex […]
![What Is Love? [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/03/dan-savage-348x180.jpg)
What Is Love? [Savage Love]
I’m a 33-year-old woman from Melbourne, Australia, dating a 24-year-old man. We’ve been dating for about eight months; it’s exclusive and official. He’s kind, sweet, caring and giving, and his penis is divine. The thing is, he confessed to me recently that he doesn’t really “feel.” The way he explained it is, the only emotions […]
![Zaps [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/03/savage-348x180.jpg)
Zaps [Savage Love]
I’m an 18-year-old cis hetero girl from Australia, and I’ve been listening to your podcast and reading your column since I was 13. Thanks to you, I’m pretty open-minded about my sexuality and body. Having said that, I do have a few questions. I started watching porn from a youngish age with no real shame […]
![Quickies [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/02/savage-2.jpg)
Quickies [Savage Love]
I recently stumbled on an Instagram account of a young woman who’s a “knife play” enthusiast. I consider myself sex-positive, but I must say I was disturbed by the images. I was also shocked that I didn’t know this was a thing! But of course it’s a thing because everything is a thing, right? I […]
![Bi & Biphobia [Savage Love]](https://www.ocweekly.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/02/savage-1.jpg)
Bi & Biphobia [Savage Love]
I’m an 18-year-old female who is cisgender and bisexual. I’ve been in a monogamous relationship with my cisgender bisexual boyfriend for about a year. I’m currently struggling with a lot of internalized biphobia and other hang-ups about my boyfriend’s sexuality. I don’t know if I’m projecting my own issues onto him or if I’m just […]