It's hard enough planning a Valentine's Day for one lover, how about two? That's a challenge cheaters face every Feb. 14. Of course, the day is really a bitch for the person being stepped out on–should he/she ever find out, that is. In providing tips to help those dealing with infidelity, Affairs Recovery includes sobering statistics about Valentine's Day and homewrecker ways. Go to AffairRecovery.com for the sugar as we pass along the salt.
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Conservatively, about 20% of men and 10% of women (and the number of women is
growing) engage in sexual infidelity at some point in their lives–and if you include
nonsexual affairs, nearly 45% of men and 24% of women get involved with someone
outside their marriage. On Feb. 14, unusual phone calls, late-night texting and a change in how you two usually celebrate the holiday are signs someone has two valentines.
39% of unfaithful spouses buy gifts for both their affair partner and their mate if the affair spanned over Valentine's Day.
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An Affair Recovery survey of those who have experienced infidelity shows the
hardest part about celebrating the first Valentine's Day after the affair is the reminder of
the infidelity. Both the betrayed and the unfaithful agree, 54% and 47% respectively. 30% of the unfaithful say the uncertainty of how to act is the hardest part. Poor babies.
70% of individuals who have gone through infidelity say the first Valentine's
after discovery of the affair is worse than previous ones shared.
Hurt spouses who reported that
Valentine's Day has indeed regained meaning stated that it takes an average of 2.7 years to
become meaningful or enjoyable again. However, 60% reported Valentine's Day is still not
meaningful post betrayal.
Besides the Valentine's Day clues in the first item, if at any time of the year you notice your loved one has multiple cell phones, is overly protective of a cell phone or goes unaccounted for hours at a time, you've either got a cheater or a Breaking Bad chemistry teacher.
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OC Weekly Editor-in-Chief Matt Coker has been engaging, enraging and entertaining readers of newspapers, magazines and websites for decades. He spent the first 13 years of his career in journalism at daily newspapers before “graduating” to OC Weekly in 1995 as the alternative newsweekly’s first calendar editor.