By Gustavo Arellano
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By Charles Lam
By Charles Lam
DEAR MEXICAN: My wife, who is Mexican, is a tough nut psychologically to figure out, so I am turning to the expert to for some desperately needed insight. Essentially, when we began dating, all was right as rain. She was sweet, kind, considerate and extremely attentive. Now, what I call "brown outs" occur. She will fly off the handle at the drop of a hat, throw things, say awful, nasty things—basically turn into a she-devil. Furthermore, the jealousy (although seemingly dormant for the moment) is always there. I think it would drive her loca if I ever left my garage and had a beer at the cantina again. We love each other very much, so I guess you could say our marriage is anything but dull. Is this typical with Mexican women? ¡Ayúdame!
DEAR WHITE WOLF GABACHO: The traditional explanation was that it was all about sangre—the blood of the Moors, Spaniards, Gypsies and Aztecs coursing through a mujer's veins resulted in a quartet of locura that was simultaneously alluring and dangerous (just refer to the Agustín Lara canon, specifically "Granada," for further detail). On second thought, that's just bigoted heteronormative misogyny . . . so let's just chalk it up to the fact that Mexican woman are crazy because they're women, m'kay?
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DEAR MEXICAN: I know an 18-year-old getting deported from the USA. He has been here since he was 5 years old. His entire family is here and undocumented. He grew up in juvenile halls and did a felony as soon as he turned 18. Will he be deported for sure, or will the immigration judge give him a break since his entire family is here?
Deportations Are for Dummies
DEAR GABACHO: Alas, homeboy is probably going, going adiós. The Obama administration's Deferred Action for Childhood Arrival, which allows undocumented youngsters a two-year stay of deportation (subject to renewal) until Congress gets its amnesty act together, specifically states that candidates aren't eligible if they've "been convicted of a felony, significant misdemeanor, three or more other misdemeanors, and . . . pose a threat to national security or public safety." Without knowing the circumstances of the guy you're talking about, it doesn't seem he stands a chance for judicial mercy or to become a cause célébre for DREAMers across the country. That said, if all the charges were bullshit, and the legal system has royally screwed the kid, get in contact with your local DREAMer movement, as the courage in fighting for the damned you'll find there has been far more impressive than what Latino politicians have shown. And do it fast: The Obama administration deports Mexicans as quickly as California's reservoirs are drying up.
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DEAR MEXICAN: I have no pride in being Mexican-American. I'm not that insecure! It's pathetic that people take pride in something they had no control over! I take pride in my personal accomplishments and my behavior and things that I control, the decisions I make, the goals I reach. Grow up.
Proud to Be Me
DEAR WAB: Congratulations on becoming the first Mexican acolyte of Ayn Rand!
Maybe I should consider myself lucky. I'm an American guy who moved to southern Mexico about half a year ago for work. I'm only 30 years old, handsome, and in good shape. But I'm very lonely. The younger women here really don't like me. Sometimes they are friendly, but never interested in a date. More often they are unfriendly or rude. I suppose the women here simply don't like gringos. I can't wait until I get a chance to visit America so I can be around friendly white American women again! Looking at the internet, a lot of other guys seem to get a much warmer reception in Brazil or Columbia. Why do Mexican women dislike me?
mexican or spanish women are very possesive by nature, then sprinkle a little temper on top and BOOM!!!!!!!
Mexicans are a combination of Mongol and Arab genes, the two most savage people in history. If you mix Arabs with Ghenghis Khan, and throw in a little Spanish blood, you get a mexican. That is why 120,000 Mexicans have been killed in the drug war and 20,000 are missing. The president of Mexico was involved in Murder so was the son of Fabian Nunez. Murder and violence is part of Mexican genes.
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Might not hurt to talk to an actual mental health professional--last I heard, Mexicans were no more immune to mental illness than the rest of us.
"proud to be me"
YOU GOT IT
those who do so have little to go on when it comes to true self esteem
you go brother
It is a proven fact that 99.999999% of people afflicted with vaginas suffer some kind of mental illness.
Really, you are going to throw your sisters under the bus like that? You wasted a good opportunity to educate on machismo and failed miserably
You don't have to be proud to be Mexican-American as long as you don't feel ashamed. That is the worst because there is nothing you can do to change your nopal face and it's what the xenophobes want you to feel.
Why is it more okay to say that all women are crazy than to say that all Mexican women are crazy? Neither one is okay.
" Congratulations on becoming the first Mexican acolyte of Ayn Rand!" I am sure he is not the first, unfortunately.
Unless the guy who wrote is my coworker (which I doubt because it would mean he read your column, which as far as I know doesn't appear in the Ayn Rand newsletter, he is not the first Randian Mexican.
'We can ignore reality, but we cannot ignore the consequences of ignoring reality.' I like Ayn Rrrand.
@joesmith975310 Have you consider if your attitude maybe not so nice to mexican women? I´m a mexican woman and we could never reject to a guy that is nice and humble, the power of a smile and a charming attitud with nice manners always make us like any man.
If you project an attitude of a smug, arrogant and spoiled boy then you´re never going to be appreciated in any place, not only with us.
Have a nice day:)
No. But it IS a fact your comment is rife with misogyny.
Thank you. I think there are as many crazy men as there are crazy women. That "bitches be crazy" mantra is really old hat...and really sexist.
@FishWithoutBicycle @buzzookamanIt's just a joke, and I'm sorry but comparing it to a racism is just wrong. Apples and oranges. Let's do apples to apples.
Had the joke been "It is a proven fact that 99.999999% of people afflicted with penis suffer some kind of mental illness." I would have shrugged my shoulders, chuckled, and then told myself "Hmm, this person may have a point there." and move on.
Had the joke been what I posted above, would you have jumped on the poster for it as well? I won't make assumptions as to yes or no, but had you jumped on the poster for that joke, you would have been wrong to do so as well. Why? Because it's just a joke.