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[¡Ask a Mexican!] And should young Mexican students move out with their young gabacho boyfriends?

Arellano, Gustavo

Dear Mexican: We're in state testing this week at the high school I teach at. After the students finish a section, they can only sit and read or just sit. I did an experiment: I chose the cholo-est, tatted, pierced, non-readers and dropped your book on their desk. Students that never read, read for 45 minutes straight. They were seeing words that they use every day in print for the first time. They had as much fun with the glossary as with the questions. They were sharing, laughing, discussing what they read. Then I set the hook: "We'll be using that book in my Chicano Studies class." Best recruiting tool ever. That's my personal copy, and it's getting beat up. I'll be ordering more for the classroom. Thanks again, you have made my job much easier.

Maestro Man

Dear Gabacho: It's stories like yours that make writing this column worth all the hate mail. The próxima question, on the other hand . . .

Dear Mexican: I'm a 23-year-old Mexican girl on my second year at a Cal State university and also work part-time at a hospital. I'm dating a white boy who is 25, works a minimum-wage job and graduated with a GED. We have been dating for more than a year now, but when we were about six months into the relationship we decided to move out. Due to our financial difficulties, we had to move back in with our parents. Now, my traditional father is almost forcing us to get married, since we have lived together, or dump him and find someone else who is doing better for himself. It's so bad that now my white boyfriend does not feel comfortable coming over. How do I confront my Mexican father about us not living in Mexico and times having changed, and what do I tell my white boyfriend?

A Confused and Sad Mexican Girl

Dear Wabette: While I'm all for new traditions and the exiling of rancho mores to the rancho, don't discount your father's partial common sense. Primeramente, you're WAY too young to be settling down with one guy right now—Dios mío, you haven't even finished college! And while I'm not going to hate on folks who earned only a GED, a gabacho who wasn't able to graduate high school when he was supposed to is like a Mexican man who was only able to eat 10 tacos at the last family carne asada Sunday—a disgrace to the raza, and not much of an hombre. Not only that, if your dad really was old escuela, he wouldn't have accepted the two of you moving out in the first place AND he'd have problems with you going to college, period! So pay attention to your papi saying to look for someone else, but do tell him that the days of a woman having to marry the first man to bed her went the way of the tequila bottles at my friend Gaby's wedding. Finally, refry your humble Mexican's advice, chula: there are many flavors of chorizo in the market, so why buy the first one you see instead of tasting all of them? And finish your education and find yourself a career before getting a novio—the future you're saving is your own.

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Ivory Katese Taylor
Ivory Katese Taylor

If you changed the student's situation from a successful Mexican girl/white guy relationship to a successful Bi-racial girl/Mexican guy one, this would be my life. And the advice is still excellent, and relevant.

quien-soy
quien-soy

Which of Gustavo's  book is maestro man talking about? I may want to use it for the same reason

Luiza Padilla- Mavropoulos
Luiza Padilla- Mavropoulos

Hey Sad Chicas listen to Tiger papa II.. He right ya know as is your papa. why ya going to settle your so young. been there done that.

BlueCollar
BlueCollar

A white guy with a GED is a disgrace. On the other hand, a Mexican with a GED is the pride of his people. Thank you, Gustavo, for reminding us that the value of a man can be summed up by the color of his skin and a piece of paper.

Vawlkee
Vawlkee

What's a "white" boy?

HarlumWorld
HarlumWorld

christ! it seems like bachelors degrees are just pre-requisites for jobs at starbucks in modern day america, could you imagine a future with just a GED to stand on?

fishslayer1
fishslayer1

Well said Gustavo...take heed my dear!!


whatevas
whatevas

Wabette, 

If your listening, go to some frat parties at the Cal State and find a better white boy. At least you know if you do get marred and he cheats on you, the house in Newport or Naples in Long Beach along with the BMW will be yours!!! 

Tu Amigo

Whatevas

Mitchell_Young
Mitchell_Young topcommenter

"Finally, refry your humble Mexican's advice, chula: there are many flavors of chorizo in the market, "

That's the voice of experience, right there. And by market, he mean's he literally had to pay for the samples.

elvagotrago
elvagotrago

@gdebaca his no so best seller "The History of Donkey Shows in Tijuana - A Cultural Tradition in Peril"  available on remainder shelves everywhere.  

HarlumWorld
HarlumWorld

@BlueCollar a Mexican with a GED is just as bad & degrees are more than just pieces of papers...otherwise there wouldn't be a disparity in socio-economic status of college educated americans & non-college educated americans 

GustavoArellano
GustavoArellano moderator editortopcommenter

@Mitchell_Young Oh, please: that's the domain of your people. You always seem to disappear for a month at a time—hanging out with Poonla in Phuket?

BlueCollar
BlueCollar

@HarlumWorld @BlueCollar 

PS. I used the term piece of paper because a diploma, like a green card, is just a piece of paper to some of us. It can't measure a man in any way other than to say he took some tests, and not having one doesn't degrade the value of the man. But there are some ass holes who will look down on the man anyway.

BlueCollar
BlueCollar

@HarlumWorld

Irony: (Noun)The expression of one's meaning by using language that normally signifies the opposite, typically for humorous or emphatic effect.

In regards to socio-economic concerns, I won't argue. In regards to what makes an hombre more of an hombre?

Does a college degree ensure that an hombre won't be a deadbeat papi?

Does a degree guarantee that an hombre won't beat or run around on his Mami?

Does a degree make an hombre honest?

Does it mean that he is a good man by nature?

Does it mean he won't vote Republican?

Does it mean he's smart enough not to bad mouth people, in print, who live in the same economic strata as the day laborers whose children he claims to champion? People who, by exposure, are more likely to be sympathetic to the plight of said familias and vote in favor of the DREAM they are after? People who, when spat upon, might become alienated?

Does it mean he will realize that representing something REALLY FUCKING IMPORTANT is a double edged sword?

Does a GED ensure the opposite?

Mitchell_Young
Mitchell_Young topcommenter

@GustavoArellano @Mitchell_Young Shit, I wish I had the money for that. Back when I was working in Europe, and had a lot of extra cash...weekends in Prague were epic. Hell, even Munich was great...though a lot more costly.

You really should invest $300 and fly down to Acapulco, klavito. You could experience something similar.

 
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