When a White Dad Disapproves of His Daughter Dating a Mexican

[¡Ask a Mexican!] Plus, are Spaniards white?

DEAR MEXICAN: I'm a white girl dating a Mexican from Jalisco who works for my dad. Therein lies the problem. Dad absolutely dislikes him and totally opposes me dating Ignacio and has been almost rude to him, which I don't like.

Some details: I often visit Dad at his office, and on one of those occasions, I met Ignacio, who has the deepest dark eyes I've ever seen. We flirted a little, exchanged phone numbers and that was it for that day. He and I hit it off almost from the beginning, so I feel it was totally natural to start dating him, even if he lives in a not-so-nice place and we have different backgrounds. Of course, Dad gave me a whole speech that night at home: that I should not be talking to people I don't know, that he knew what I was thinking, etc. And when we started dating a few days later, he got mad, refused to drive me to the mall and so on.

A few days later, we dated again. We kissed and started our relationship, and my father started to behave like a drama queen, saying he was disappointed, that he thought he raised a good, decent girl and such things. I had no option but to call him a racist and sore loser, which I'm now sorry to have said. Dad lectures me about not worrying "about my future" and that I'm "losing it over a beaner," makes a scene many times when I'm going out with Ignacio, and calls my cell phone often to "check out what I'm doing." He justifies his behavior by saying I'm his only daughter and says he wants the "best for me" (read: date a white guy). The fact is I like my boyfriend a lot and don't see why I need to break up with him just to please my father. It gets complicated because Ignacio says one day, he's gonna lose his patience and answer my Dad back—or worse. What can I do to handle Dad's dramas? And to have him accept my relationship with Ignacio?

Una Confused Gringa

DEAR GABACHA: So Nacho is good enough to work for your papi, but not good enough for his daughter? Typical gabacho exploiter. I would flaunt the relationship in front of your dad. Change your name to Xochitl. Blast mariachi in your home. Make your tortillas by hand—better yet, start eating nopales. Totally freak out your dad! But at the same time, be a responsible chica—you didn't specify your age, but given your reference to getting driven to the mall and still living at home, I'll assume you're in high school. So stay away from sex—but if you don't, make sure to use birth control because Mexican sperm is potent. Keep up your grades. Show Dad that your life won't worsen if a Mexi is your man and that he's pendejo for even thinking it. And remind him that frowning on interracial relationships is so Jim Crow-era and to get with the programa.

 

DEAR MEXICAN: Why do you frijoleros (being myself of Iberian descent, if you can use gabacho, you've gotta let me use this) assume that white people don't speak Spanish? You would not believe the crap I hear almost every day! We spoke Spanish when the Mexicans were still ripping out the hearts of their neighbors.

El Cid Soy

DEAR GACHUPÍN: A Spaniard who thinks he's white? HA! You gachupines are as gabacho as Mexicans are infertile.

 

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56 comments
millievillafan1
millievillafan1

Two things

1; to the guy that said mexicans fucked animals, ha fckn prick..

2; your a fckn burro for saying that shit you literally "fuck hole"

medinafernando1970
medinafernando1970

Do what is in your heart, if you like this guy then keep on dating him, just get to know him pretty good, don't listen to people that are just stereotyping, just like any other situation there are mexican/chicanos or any other race that are successful,but  at the end know what you want not what other want, don't listen to haters at the end it just you and him, or who you ever decide to be with.


James
James

Spaniards are white Europeans.

Leqaf
Leqaf

Españoles should stick to their own businesses.

Juan2X
Juan2X

Dear Confused Gringa, unlike ass kissing hispanics who secretly lust for gringas like the "ask a minstrel" who vomits this "column" I have some advice for you from our friend Ice Cube. "Spread out you little cave bitch"

wilbertson
wilbertson

having a filthy mouth is not amusing

LaMigra
LaMigra

A quick question Gustavo, were you born in Mexico?

If not, why would you call yourself mexican, when you're really about as mexican as Taco Bell.?

Actual mexicans sneak across our border every chance they get, but here you are, more than likely an American, pretending to be one of them.

If you were born here, shame on you. you should be proud to be american, Puto.

Southern_Belle
Southern_Belle

Jesus Christ, California is full of racists. Texas is so much better.

Tom Pryor
Tom Pryor

A Spaniard who thinks he's white? HA! You gachupines are as gabacho as Mexicans are infertile.

Guess the Mexican's never been to Galicia. Not ALL of Spain was ruled by Arabs, y'know...

marxists suck
marxists suck

So whites aren't allowed to preserve their genetic heritage because it is so "jim crow." F - off . listening to your crap makes me whiter every day. She is what is called "white trash". The term was meant for race - mixers.. not poor whites. Her daddy is right.

Merlinalchemy
Merlinalchemy

WHY the (((slam))) to a Spaniard??

Mexicans are PROOF the Spaniards had sex with animals!

CHS
CHS

If the gentleman works for your daddy, then daddy naturally views him as a subordinate. You have to realize that daddy wants you to get with an executive!

Latingirl
Latingirl

Let me see, a highschool girl is talking about a mexican man who is working for his father and the problem is his father's? How old is this mexican guy? As for the reputation of mexican guys... well, you guys have a reputation of being the most chauvinistic in Latin America (and that isn't a very good sample to start) and one of the most irresponsible. That isn't racism. It might be a stereotype but, if it is, it is because the vast majority of you make the rest look very bad. What is missing here are the details. And, what kind of an employee puts on the moves on his boss' teenage daughter? That is irresponsible (see above) whatever your ethnicity.

SchooledbyaMexican
SchooledbyaMexican

Gustavo, I am a proud Mexicana and El Cid Soy is an idiot, like most gabachos out there! But my question to you is why aren't Spaniards not White/gabachos? I was a chican@ major and what I hated the most was to hear Mexican/chicano's be so proud of our indigenous ancestry but still want to be Spanish. I've been to Spain and I can say we are NOT like Spaniards. All we share is a language (kind of) and religion (and sadly they have figured out religion is a joke and moved on). I would be a pendeja if I denied that some Latin Americans do have more Spanish/European ancestry (those fuckers did rape our people) but most of us have very little Spanish/white blood. Spain is in Europe and if the French, German, Belgium's, Italians, Austian and so on are White, why are Spaniards not? And to another point, El Cid Soy is probably like all my retarded Mexican friends who say they are Spanish but their brown asses are just as Mexican and indigenous like me! Mexican brothers and sisters, lets stop saying we are Spanish because we are not. All we were to them was a conquista (literally and figuratively). *excuse the typos and grammatical mistakes....I started to get heated thinking of my beautiful brown people wanting to be Spanish/white!

Kiona_anime
Kiona_anime

i'm a white girl and i've been dating my mexican boyfriend for well over a year and a half. but it's a different situation because my family absolutely loves him and his family loves me. i mean yea, my family says racist jokes to him but he jokes right back and that's why they love him. he can take jokes. but all-in-all interracial relationships are just as great as same race relationships. it's who they are, not the color of their skin and as long as he treats her right then fuck what her dad says. love is color blind!

Fe Fo
Fe Fo

I have learned from my mom dating my dad, and being bi-racial; that parents never approve of any guy brought home unless they brought him to meet you. I brought a white guy home and my mother still freaked out because he wasn't black, Asian or Mexican. So I dunno what to tell you. Even Mexican parents can be racist if you don't bring home the guy they want you to date, and he doesn't even have to be Mexican...

Wes
Wes

Hey I date married Mexican men who claim to be "macho". I'm about as gringo as it gets and I love all my papis. Yes I'm a white man that loves his fellow Mexican. Just not in the way that you thought. Viva la vida otra!

Isamea888
Isamea888

Young lady, you may want to first thinking about how your father is a father doing what he committed to doing when here accepted his responsibility as a father and Thank him for that. Then tell him this is something you feel very strongly about and will keep him in mind while dating your boyfriend. Tell your boyfriend to think about when he has his children/daughter will he act the same or different? Everyone needs to take into account you are all human and all Gods children. Do Not give your father any reason to get even more upset as this will not help your situation. Tell your boyfriend to be honorable and treat your father with respect when he speaks to your father. He should let you father know he understand his attempt to protect you. Then proceed to ask permission to date you. This is how it is done in Mexico. He knows this. He may also add that he asks but has no control over you. And aware that you will do what you want, as your father has taught you to be a strong independent woman. Communication and Understanding is what is need in this situation. Give it time and don't push too hard or it will explode into something ugly. Not the results you want.

Holly Griffith
Holly Griffith

if she is getting driven to the mall she is 15 or YOUNGER. If he is working for dad he is 18 or older. That alone is enough to disapprove of them dating, IMO.

Abe Washington
Abe Washington

Is Nacho a go getter, does he have to be told what to do at work? does he have his own dreams that he is interested in achieving higher education because he cannot see himself being a parent without the means to support them properly?Is Nacho the kind of guy who will be p**sy whipped and forget priorities and end up in the sack with anyone who will give it up to become pregnant and poor?Are you the type of girl who is just horny and does not want to "take care of herself?Are you the type of girl who when you do the "evil deed" you will be ween** whipped and lose your focus.Are you daddy's girl who does not clean the toilets help your mom make supper for the family, and help clean the yard, laundry etc?Think about it, before you get all weird about your Dad not allowing you to date why don't you do the right things for yourself first, do not prove anything to anyone, show yourself that you do not have to be a irresponsible spoiled brat and you will get a education without Dad or Mom asking you to, that you will help around the house without being ask to. Volunteer to be a CASA worker get some experience in helping the community, helping other children instead of trying to prove your Dad "wrong!

Excholo
Excholo

For one thing white girls are easy. Sex on the first or second nite is never out of the question. If you screw her over you usually dont have to worry about their gang banging brothers sticking you with a screwdriver. And if she is from anywhere south of Jamboree road you know that if you dont get the punanee you will most likely get a good BJ!

together
together

Man fuck this shit askamexican used to be fun all the comments are ruining it.

Chavez Hated Illegals
Chavez Hated Illegals

Smart Dad, follow his advice. Or you may end up hitched to a loser like Pepe!

Ihateusc
Ihateusc

lol... how much you want to bet this gordita is 300 pounds with facial hair? no one with any ounce of self respect would go out with someone named ignacio... get used to a life of being broke and stupid...but if you're dating a mexican, i figured you're already that anyway. lol

EvilUnicorn
EvilUnicorn

@SchooledbyaMexican not all Mexican-Americans are brown skinned or Indios.  There are light skinned, mostly (more than 90%) spanish/french and very little if any Indian blood.  I am one.  My father is a white Mexican, my grandfather was a red=headed blue eyes Mexican from Jalisco.  NOT ALL MEXICANS OR MEXICAN AMERICANS ARE BROWN.   I hate this "brown" pride crap that ex students from "East Los Angeles" college  try to force down our throats.  I you don't like white mexicans, when white mexicans don't have to like you either. 

EvilUnicorn
EvilUnicorn

@SchooledbyaMexican  Not all Mexicans or Mexican Americans are brown, light brown, caramel or what ever.  Some of us are acutally white Castizos, with almost no Indian or zero Indian.  Look at Jalisco, Zacatecas, Sonora, look at how the migration affected these areas in Mexico.  To say that we are mostly brown is a mistake.  My great grandfather , my grandfather, my father, my grandmother, all on my dad's side were confused for white american people back in the day.  I am proud to say that I am a beautiful white color.  I don't think brown is ugly, but don't say that we are all brown.  I'm not, my siblings are not, and that does not make us bad people.

Ihateusc
Ihateusc

@wes... is your hubby named gus by any chance?

Kiona_anime
Kiona_anime

or she just doesn't have a car. I have SOOOO many friends here in New Mexico that are pushing 20 and don't have a car because they can't afford it. Also, my boyfriend is 16 and has a full time job. You can't take vague details and turn them into actual facts unless you know the girl.

gustavoarellano
gustavoarellano

Holly: You have no proof of either, so I'm not sure why you're bringing this up...

gustavoarellano
gustavoarellano

Too bad white supremacists (and Asians who want to be white) hijacked the comments here—it's up to ustedes to defend the honor of Mexis! Not that it's that hard to dispel the "arguments" of those Know Nothings haha

Pepe
Pepe

You're back for me to play with? Goody! Shitting on your retarded, white sheet-wearing ass is always so much fun. Now be a good inbred sister-fucker and try to come back with something good.

Jodav82
Jodav82

u must be psychic right

Cristina T.
Cristina T.

and what is wrong with the name Ignacio. that is my father-n-law's name. he is one of the best men i know (other than my hubby). and why she got to be borke and stupid cus she is with a mexican?? i know some mexicans that make DAMN good money...of corse im sure the took ur job :-)

Manny Gonzalez
Manny Gonzalez

I love the way inverse travesties guys like you speculate about people, trying to guess how she looks, you just sound biased, brainless and pendejo! your Disneyworld mind cannot let you think in any other way since you're not even totally evolved... go spread your hate and shit somewhere else... pedazo de cagada racista!

Pepe
Pepe

You night be right about going out with someone named Ignacio in the sense of having a romantic, long-term relationship. But your daddy was sure having a good time gargling Nacho's nut butter the other night!

Janeandjoseph
Janeandjoseph

u know you are just a hating she-male. now go play with yourself and quit being a jealous bitch.

Craig
Craig

20 and no car? I bet they also be 20 and no job.

LOSERS

Excholo
Excholo

Right that his ditsy daughter is a whore.

Kiona_anime
Kiona_anime

hell yea! my boyfriend's family is all straight from mexico and now they're lawyers/doctors and make BANK! it's not race that makes someone a broke loser, it's motivation.

Ihateusc
Ihateusc

lol @ cristina... time to take that remedial english class!!!

Ihateusc
Ihateusc

pepe, your homoerotic references are getting creepy...is gustavo your boy toy?

Kiona_anime
Kiona_anime

So you don't deny your pathetic mediocre life?

Ihateusc
Ihateusc

So if my boyfriend's family are "fake" doctors, answer these then: why do they have big fancy houses in gated neighborhoods. Why do they all drive nice cars? Why do they OWN all of their property and don't borrow from the bank or make payments?

ONE WORD... DRUGS...

Kiona_anime
Kiona_anime

You are truly an idiot and I pity your ignorance. So if my boyfriend's family are "fake" doctors, answer these then: why do they have big fancy houses in gated neighborhoods. Why do they all drive nice cars? Why do they OWN all of their property and don't borrow from the bank or make payments? I already asked what you do. Probably a mediocre job in a cubicle and a middle class house that you pay rent at.

Ihateusc
Ihateusc

lol.. your mutt background explains everything i need to know.. yes, i dont like mexcians.. because collectively, they are illegal, ungrateful, lazy, gang-banging, graffiti painting, crass and downright stupid people...as for your boyfriend's family having doctors in them, being a curandero doesnt count. and having a md degree from the university of guadalajara doesnt count either. ...hahahaha

Kiona_anime
Kiona_anime

Also thought i'd add, the worst people i've met throughout my life have all been white. they were ignorant, hateful, hypocritical, and self-righteous bigots. Do I have anything against the entire white race? No, because I'm white and so that proves that there are people of my race that aren't total bigots, unlike you. You say that Mexicans are just maids and McDonalds workers but answer this, what do YOU do for a living, besides run your judgmental mouth? Like I previously said, my boyfriend and his family came here from Mexico and are now doctors/lawyers/nurses/etc. There isn't any gardner or maid in his family and they came from Chihuahua, Mexico without hardly anything. Now they all live in quiet gated neighborhoods and when you go inside their houses you'll see paintings of the Crucifix and Virgen de Guadalupe and other traditional Mexican decor.They also throw the best parties AND make lots of money. So you need to pull that silver spoon out of your ass and stop being such a douche.

Kiona_anime
Kiona_anime

just as I thought, you wouldn't answer the question. And i'm offended because I don't stand for bigotry and racism. I am white, my step sister is half black, my best friend is native american, and my boyfriend is mexican. I can look past the surface and see straight to someone's heart, clearly you lack that ability. You should practice it, you'll be a much happier person once you let go of stupid ignorance. Like i said, did your daddy not give you enough hugs? You're on a forum labeled "Ask a Mexican" and you're spouting offensive garbage at anyone who doesn't agree with you. Clearly, you crave the attention you didn't get as a child.

Ihateusc
Ihateusc

for a purported white girl you seem to be really offended... are you sure you're not "white" on sundays only and the rest of the week you're a beaner? lol... moo cow...

Kiona_anime
Kiona_anime

if you dislike mexicans so damn much what are you doing on a forum labeled "Ask a Mexican"? or are you so desperate for drama and attention that you seek out people to offend? you want reactions that badly? did your daddy not give you enough hugs as a child?

Ihateusc
Ihateusc

yeah, figures these mental midgets are the first to cry racism and they start throwing epithets around.. but on the other hand, im not offended.. who cares what these janitors/maids/farm workers/mcdonald workers think... as long as they know their place and stay out of my neighborhood, i dont care... btw, my kids's elementary school only has 3% mexicans.. and they are in the 99th percentile for test scores.. anyone else not surprised by these stats? viva la raza!! lol

Zeta
Zeta

"Chinito"? "Little Chinaman"? Thank god you were born raza and can sling racist epithets with impunity.

Ihateusc
Ihateusc

lol... actually went out with many mexican girls.. they're pretty cute until about age 22 when they start blowing out their anchor babies.. then watch out gordita!! dont be a hater gus, im sure those girls didnt mean to turn you down, they just naturally thought you were gay!!! hahaha

gustavoarellano
gustavoarellano

Fake Dr. Bullied Chinito: You're just jealous all those cute Mexican girls at Belmont laughed at your pathetic ass...

 
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