[Savage Love] Sleep-deprived edition!

My boyfriend and I met nearly three years ago when I was a call girl and he was a guy who wanted to be pegged (a big, big part of my business). We became friends, then partners, and now we've been together for three years. We share a home, and we're bringing up my 7-year-old son together. It's the best relationship I've ever been in—he's loving, communicative, patient, supportive and WAY fun sexually. His dad told me recently that he's never seen his son so happy. He's got a good job, and in addition to being a stay-at-home mom, I occasionally see my old regulars. In fact, we've done a few calls together, for trusted clients who wanted to experience a threesome.

My question is, how common is it for prostitutes and clients to end up together? Of course, the business is full of pitfalls and is not for the timid or directionless, but human beings in proximity do tend to fall in love given the chance . . . or are we just an anomaly?

Lucky In Love

Sex workers and clients do occasionally fall in love (check out the wonderful memoir Concertinaby Susan Winemaker), so it does happen, LIL. But it happens so rarely that I was reluctant to print your letter, as it will give countless johns false hope. But I'm sleep-deprived, so here it is. Congrats on finding the love of (fingers crossed) your life, LIL.

Here's an ultravanilla one for you: It's been about eight months since I was dumped, and every day, I still think about the girl who broke my heart. I don't speak to her and don't want to. How do you get over a breakup?

Tired Of Her

Sometimes a cliché is all I've got: Time heals all wounds—time and, of course, fucking other people. Did you know that every ounce of another woman's saliva that you swallow, TOH, shaves a week off the healing process? It's a true and totally scientific fact. I distinctly remember reading it in the Science section of The New York Times this morning.

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